Officially Official

We officially announced! Goodness, I can't believe how fast the weeks are going by. In case you missed it on IG or FB our official announcement:

"Benjamin and I are thrilled to announce that we're expecting baby DeFoor later this year!
After a 7+ year battle with infertility, thousands of prayers, millions of tears, months of heartaches, countless doctor visits, medical procedures, pills, shots, and failed treatments...God surprised us with a miracle the week before I was going to start medicines for IVF!
I think we're still a little shocked but are completely overjoyed to finally be getting the desire and longing of our hearts! ❤️
To our families and friends who have supported us, cried with us , and prayed for us through this journey, thank you, thank you, thank you!! Your love has seen us through the worst of days...and the best!
To the thousands of ladies in my infertility groups, I would not have been able to walk this road without you. Literally you have walked this journey with me every SINGLE step of the way and I would have been lonely and lost without your encouragement, understanding, and support. I pray each of you get to experience the happiness of knowing your dreams of a baby are finally coming true! You are the strongest, bravest, women I know"

Heartbeat

We went for my 7wk appointment today. Yes, it's earlier than most people get to go but we go earlier to check placement of baby and for a heartbeat. Going in I was so nervous, I don't think the fear and the "what ifs" will ever go away after struggling with infertility and knowing all that can go wrong. I hope it does. I want to just be able to enjoy being pregnant but there is a lot of fear and anxiety mixed in with the joy.

I'm thrilled to say baby is looking good with a good spot picked out in my uterus and with a nice strong heartbeat! Seeing that little flutter and hearing the fast little beats...there is no joy that can compare! This is for real...I'm still struggling to believe it. I have a baby growing in my belly!And over 15 tests to prove it. 😏

 Gotta make sure!

Little baby bean.

Heartbeat!

Is This Real Life?

On Feb 26 I woke up and took a pregnancy test. It was the second one I had taken this cycle, I took one two days before that I didn't really even watch because IF I was pregnant by some miracle, it was way too early to show up. When you've struggled with in infertility you're in one of two categories, you're either a POASA (pee on a stick addict which means you take home pregnancy tests even when you KNOW it won't be positive) or you avoid pregnancy tests like the plague. I am definitely in the first category. This time around I was just waiting for my period to come so I could start all of my IVF meds for our IVF cycle in March (did I ever even update and say that was the plan?). Anyway, I took a test when I woke up and set the timer on my phone and watched that little thing like a hawk...and my eyes (once again) started playing tricks on me. We call it "line eyes" in the infertility world...it's when you see two lines when really there is only one (which means, again not pregnant). I stared and rubbed my eyes, and held it at different angles...there were definitely TWO LINES. I immediately swung the bathroom door open and yelled to Ben "come look at this! Is there another line on here?! I think there are two lines" Bless him, he was sound asleep and didn't know what I was talking about. But once he woke up a little he agreed that there was a second line but he didn't believe it was dark enough to be true. Here's the thing, ANY second line within the time-frame is because you have the pregnancy hormone, just maybe not a high level yet. Y'all, my heart was going CRAZY! I was shaking so bad. Could this be for real?!

I took a picture and jumped on Facebook to post in my infertility group and ask the ladies who would know for sure if there was a second line. And the consensus was, I'M PREGNANT!!!!!

Unless you have a LOT of experience, you probably can't even see a second line in the picture. Trust me, it's there! Since then I've gone for two betas (blood tests that measure the level of the pregnancy hormone) and they have been beautiful and confirmed a pregnancy that is progressing well.

We are in complete shock still. I am having such a hard time believing this is actually real, not a prank, not some joke...I.am.pregnant. After over 7yrs, too many medicated cycles to count, six failed IUI's, right before starting meds for IVF...I'M PREGNANT!!!!!

I'll probably set this post to private for a while. I'm about 5wks now and have told our families and closest friends but will wait a bit longer to share with the world.

IVF Update & Plan

Sorry for the delayed update! I've been spending any down time trying to figure all this IVF stuff out (it's a lot and so overwhelming!). Our phone call with Dr Kiltz went well. It was a ton of info in about 20mins. I feel like we've been processing it all and coming up with a plan ever since!  Most of it was stuff I had already learned from their website and several CNY Facebook groups I'm in (those ladies have been amazing with helping me figure things out!) but there was some new stuff too. 

Since then I've been in contact with my nurse through emails and phone calls and she's amazing! I got my whole medicine protocol (SO many meds!) and Ben and I have been researching the best places for me to get each one for the best price. Meds can easily cost over $4000 but we're figuring out ways to get them cheaper. Certain pharmacies offer different coupons and discounts. We applied to a program called Compassionate Care and got approved for a big discount with them. So thankful for that! I met with a new doctor this past Wednesday to talk about all the monitoring I'll need before we go to NY for my egg retrieval (probably 2-3 ultrasounds and blood work each time). Doing it with this new doctor instead of my current fertility doctor will save us about $500. Another big blessing! 

Because it takes a while to get meds (most you have to order from special pharmacies) and we wanted to shop around a little for the best price, we'll be skipping February and doing our IVF cycle in March. I'm sure it will be here before we know it! We are also moving in February so doing IVF the same month would have been stressful and I would have been pretty useless to help with anything! 

I'm starting to feel more excited and hopeful. I'm glad we aren't rushing in and have til March to figure out details. I'm still nervous about all the meds and side-effects and possible problems but I'm trying to stay positive and focused on hopefully getting some babies out of all this! The "what ifs" seem to be endless. But the hope for good things to come is greater than the fear (most days, I still cry my fair share of tears). 

Thank you for your thoughts and prayers and encouragement! Love you all! 

Moving Forward...

Wanted to give a quick update with where we are in both our foster and fertility journeys:


Foster care: I've been in contact with a DCS supervisor and she is looking over all of our old trainings and paperwork to get an idea of where we need to start with our re-licensing process. We're really hoping we don't have to start ALL over and some of it will carry over. We will probably have to do another home study since we moved from our last place that got approved. I'm not looking forward to having to get our little house foster care ready for just the last two months of our lease but will do it if I have to (we are planning a move mid/end of February). We know we'll have some trainings to do to get up to date again, just not sure which ones. We're hoping to hear back from them later this week.

Fertility: I've been doing a LOT of research over the past few days and even though we'd love to do the procedure that's new to the U.S., it's just not the best choice for us cost-wise. Although we like our current clinic and doctor ok (I've got some issues with how they do stuff, that's a whole other blog post though), we've decided to pursue IVF at an amazing clinic in Syracuse, New York. Even traveling there, the total cost will be around half of what we'd pay here. It's still very expensive but there are some added benefits with how they do things there that make it worth it. I set up a phone consult today for Jan 30th with the main doctor and founder of the clinic. He's an amazing man who has made it his goal to make infertility treatments affordable for everyone. His IVF costs are literally thousands of dollars less than what other clinics charge. He also is very into natural ways to help infertility (diets, supplements, Chinese medicine and practices to help with stress, etc.). Anyway, we're looking forward to talking to him and working with him after this cycle. I am finally starting to get a little more hopeful and excited about this new IVF journey. It's been a hard pill for me to swallow but I'm coming around.

Please be praying for us as we move forward in both of these areas. There are also some unspoken/typed things going on that we'd love prayers and good thoughts about too...2017 is looking like it might be a pretty great year for us! Thank you for continuing to walk life along side us.

Another Fail, Regrouping

IUI number 6 was another big fat failure. We had originally thought we'd try a few more...but we are not doing another IUI this cycle and I believe we're done with them completely. I'm worn out and we're ready to try something new, with more of a chance.

We plan to both stay on our meds as we research and have consults with several clinics across the U.S. (NY, TN, VA, SC, maybe others) over the next couple of months. In the Spring we will move forward with either IVF or a new procedure we're looking in to.

I'm devastated these IUI's haven't worked. I did NOT want to get to the point we are at. I know no one does, no one even wants to be on this horrible journey...but we are. We were so full of hope one of these IUI's would work. After a few days of sadness and tears, I will find my courage again and be able to move forward and hopefully be able to get excited once this new journey starts.

Thank you for loving us well and walking along side us. I'd be lost without the support and love from family and friends through this.

Here's a really beautiful post I'd love for you to read: You Are Not Alone: Flying Together with Broken Wings

Shout out to my guy

No real update, just wanted to pop in and give a shout out to my amazing husband. He has been so awesome through all of this...the ups and downs of each cycle, the countless tears after failed cycles and negative tests, the emotionally unstable person I become on these meds...I'm a lot to deal with and he's been there every step of the way without complaint. He has been at every test, blood draw, ultrasound, and procedure and I'm just so thankful that in this horrible journey I get to have him right by my side (holding me up most of the time!). He is so loving and encouraging to me and is able to stay much more positive and hopeful than I am. I am so blessed to have him.

Hope you all have a very Merry Christmas and enjoy time with your families. I'm looking forward to spending the holidays with my family in NC this year. Thankful for an amazing family and three nieces and a nephew to love on and play with while I'm there!